Birth Parent FAQs
Answers to Common Questions about Adoption
As a birth parent, placing a child into adoption is a big decision. You can make a loving family very happy, but it’s important to learn everything you can about the process so that you feel confident moving forward. Below, you will find answers to some common questions about the adoption process for birth parents.
Why choose adoption?
Unexpected pregnancies are difficult situations, and you will need to think carefully about the future before making a decision as to what to do. Adoption can place your child with loving parents who are eager to build a family. During the adoption process, you will be provided financial support and access to high-quality medical care to facilitate a safe, successful birth.
Will I get to meet the adoptive parents?
If you would like to meet the adoptive parents, we can arrange a meeting. You can also choose the adoptive family yourself if you wish.
Will I have any say in the adoption process?
Absolutely, it is important to us that you feel comfortable with the adoption. Our adoption counselors will work closely with you to create a personalized adoption plan that satisfies your unique needs and preferences.
Will I be able to have a relationship with my child after he or she is adopted?
There are many types of adoptions, meaning you can have a say in what kind of arrangement is set up. If you would like your child to know who you are, then you can request an open adoption where you remain in contact with the adopting family and the child.
If you’d prefer not to have any relationship with the child or the adopting family, you can have the records sealed so that you remain completely anonymous. This is called a closed adoption.
Does the father of the child have to be involved in the process?
This depends on your specific situation. If you don’t know who the father is or if the agency cannot locate or contact him, then he does not have to be involved in the process or receive notice of the process. If you know the father and he does not wish to participate in the process, then we are required to notify him of it, but that is all unless he takes action to specifically protect his rights. However, if you are married to the father or if he is listed on the child's birth certificate then he should participate in the process or, if he has abandoned you and the child, receive notice of the process.
How will I know the baby is going to a good home?
We perform extensive background checks on all individuals or couples who wish to adopt. Every family that works with us undergoes a “home study” in which we obtain references, proof of financial security, and an evaluation of their home from a social worker. You can also participate in the selection process if you choose.
Will I be charged any fees?
No, the adoption process is free for mothers placing children into adoption. In fact, we will provide you with financial support during your pregnancy, including rent, phone service, groceries, and other expenses.
What if I can’t afford medical care?
We will provide you with access to trusted prenatal care providers in the local area so that you and the baby can stay healthy. You will be able to plan out the birth plan with your care team while we cover the expenses.
Will anyone be able to help me through this process?
From emotional support to education about the adoption process, our adoption counselors will be by your side through every step of the way. We understand how emotional this process can be, and we will be available to you 24/7 during the pregnancy. We continue to provide counseling and support after you have given birth as well.
My family doesn’t support adoption, what should I do?
The choice to make an adoption plan is entirely yours. Having the support of your family is helpful during this process, and we can speak to them with you if you would like. We can tell them what the modern adoption process looks like. Our counselors can also help you explain to them why you feel this is the right choice for your situation.
I don’t want people to know I’m pregnant, can that be arranged?
If you fear that news of your pregnancy will have negative consequences in your personal or professional life, we can have you stay in one of our clean, safe, and comfortable homes during and after your pregnancy. You can leave this location at any time should you change your mind.