How to Place Your Baby for Adoption as a Homeless Birth Mother
It’s no secret that each birth mother’s adoption journey has its own unique set of obstacles that need to be overcome in order for the process to move forward successfully. For homeless birth mothers, these obstacles often prove to be even more challenging to overcome. Birth mothers lacking a safe, stable home -- or any kind of home, for that matter -- are at a disadvantage in that they often do not have the resources to gather information about the process of placing a child for adoption. Additionally, homeless birth mothers typically do not have the strong support system needed to help them through the emotionally-trying process that is the adoption journey.
If you’re facing homelessness and an unplanned pregnancy, Adoption Choices of Florida advises you to follow the five-step list we have created below, which will explain to you just how placing a child for adoption works when you’re a homeless birth mother.
5 Steps to Placing Your Baby for Adoption as a Homeless Birth Mother
Find an Adoption Agency within Your Community
This first step often presents a special challenge for birth mothers who are homeless. It can be difficult for homeless birth mothers to do research about adoption agencies within their area if they’re lacking the resources needed to provide them with this crucial information. Technology and internet access are practically disposable resources to those who possess them, but this is rarely the case for homeless birth mothers, or homeless people in general who may not own a cell phone or computer.
If you’ve become unexpectedly pregnant, are considering adoption, and do not have access to a cell phone or computer, Adoption Choices of Florida recommends visiting a community center or public library in your area that allows the public to access and use these resources for free. Additionally, you may be able to seek guidance from an employee or volunteer at a shelter for the homeless who can help connect you to an adoption agency in the area. For more information on safe housing for birth mothers, please visit our blog on housing for pregnant birth mothers before adoption.
Learn More About the Adoption Process
Once you’ve found an adoption agency in your area that you’d like to work with, the adoption professionals and other experts within the organization will be able to help you learn more about the adoption process. There’s quite a bit to learn about the adoption process, so don’t expect yourself to become an expert on the subject! It is, however, important for you to know the basics and understand that every adoption journey is not without its own unique challenges. Learning more about the adoption process will also help you to determine whether or not adoption is actually the right choice for you, or if perhaps another option is better for you and your child.
Consider Your Other Options and Determine if Adoption is Right for You
Again, adoption isn’t necessarily the right choice for every birth mother experiencing an unplanned pregnancy, so allow your adoption agency to help you explore your other options. Unlike previous years, women going through an unplanned pregnancy have a lot more options to choose from. Make sure you weigh all of your options before making a quick decision. Adoption is a huge commitment, especially if you choose to be active in the process, so be mindful of that!
Establish a Strong System of Support
Homeless birth mothers often struggle to establish a strong system of support, even though it is absolutely critical to their adoption journey. Unfortunately, it’s common for homeless birth mothers to not actively communicate with family members, friends, or other people who were formerly a part of their social circle. If you’d like to, you might find it helpful to reconnect with some of these people, as it’s important to have as much support as possible while you’re on your adoption journey!
For more information on how to establish a strong support system during your adoption journey, please visit our blog on how to include your family in your adoption plan and the types of people you need on your adoption team.
Begin Your Adoption Journey
Your adoption journey truly begins once you’ve completed the first three steps Adoption Choices of Florida has included in this list -- your support system is ever-changing and will hopefully continue to grow as you continue along your adoption journey! Once you’ve officially committed to placing your child for adoption, your next steps will include choosing which type of adoption you want, creating your child’s adoption plan, selecting the adoptive parents/family, and so on.
If this sounds intimidating, don’t worry! You’ve already made a major, life-changing decision by placing your child for adoption, so trust that you will continue to make decisions in your child’s best interest. Also, keep in mind that your adoption team, as well as other members of your support system, will be there with you to guide and support you. You will never be alone on your adoption journey!
For more information on the beginning stages of the adoption process, please visit our blog on intro to adoption for birth mothers.
Finding Support as a Homeless Birth Mother is Critical
The importance of a strong support system -- made up your adoption team, family, friends and others in your social circle -- cannot be emphasized enough. A birth mother placing her child for adoption cannot be expected to be comfortable with and confident in her decision unless the people she cares about most show support and -- as needed -- give guidance or advice. Though every decision regarding your unplanned pregnancy and adoption plan is ultimately up to you, it can be comforting to know that you have a team of people behind you ready to celebrate the good days with you and offer you a shoulder to cry on on the bad days.
If you are a birth parent considering adoption, and have any questions or concerns about the process, please don’t hesitate to reach out. For more information on adoption, visit us at Adoption Choices of Florida or call us at: 800-985-8108