Can You Put Your Child Up for Adoption while in the Military?
Joining the military can be a tough and trying experience -- especially as a female, and working hard and proving that you are strong enough to be there. After all the training and settling into a good routine, surprises are the last thing you need while serving your country. Finding out you are pregnant causes stress and anxiety. Questions start to fill your head and you wonder what is going to happen next.
Even though this is a scary thing to find out, it is nice to know that there are people out there and available options to put your mind at ease. One of these options is adoption, which provides you with the support of an adoption caseworker who is willing to help you walk through your experience and unplanned pregnancy. You are not the first to be pregnant and want to put your child up for adoption while in the military, and you won’t be the last.
The Civilian Side of Adoption
Wondering how it will work out for you on the civilian side of things? Good news is there isn’t any difference from being in the military or not as far as adoption goes. As long as you follow local and state laws about adoption, you can still put the baby up for adoption and find him or her a nice home. While it may seem scary and overwhelming, our adoption team is here to help you through it.
Adoption Choices of Florida will take care of you and your child, making sure you are both healthy and safe. You can rely on us to help you work through any issues that come up.
The Military Side of Adoption
Whether you are active or reservist, adoption is the same. You have to tell your command you are pregnant and let them know what your plan is. Find a buddy within your company to go with you when you tell them. It is important to let your command know you are pregnant because there are risk factors they need to accommodate you for. Taking a break from normal routine within the military can be a hard adjustment, but it is necessary.
There are many things within the military training and regular duties that can put you and your baby’s health at risk. Talk with your command and come up with a plan on what duties are safe for you to do and how much involvement you will partake in during your next few months of pregnancy. Consider coming up with a post-birth plan with them as well, and asking for time off to adjust and get better. Both of these elements are very needed, as you can’t just jump back into it, even though you will feel like you need to.
Making an adoption plan with your buddies both in and out of the military will give you the opportunity of having a good, strong support group for you. This will be essential as you navigate the ups and downs of your adoption journey, and as you fill out all the required paperwork solidifying your decision to place your baby for adoption. Remember to get a copy of any paperwork you need to show your command, confirming the placement of your child and your availability to return to duty. As a military service member, signing various paperwork isn’t new to you, of course, but you may find you need your support group to help you with the adoption forms, as these can be more emotional than those you are more accustomed to.
It Takes Courage to Put Your Child Up for Adoption while in the Military
It takes a lot of nerve and bravery to join the military and to complete the training -- even more to decide to put your child up for adoption while you are serving your country and ensuring that he or she finds a new wonderful home. It is okay to be scared and uncertain of yourself and your choices. No one expects you to be brave and strong 100% of the time. So, be sure to rely on those around you.
In the military, you will find you have more supporters than you think who will be there to help you up and keep you strong throughout the adoption process. There is a commondary within the military you won't find anywhere else, and they can be your family and supporters anytime you need it. Be brave and ask for the help, both in the military and on the civilian side of the adoption process.
If you are a birth parent considering adoption, and have any questions or concerns about the process, please don’t hesitate to reach out. For more information on adoption, visit us at Adoption Choices of Florida or call us at: 800-985-8108