Placing Your Child for Adoption: The Questions You Should be Asking Your Adoption Agency
Placing your child for adoption is a huge decision. One that you should put a lot of thought into and consider with the utmost care. Though the decision to place your child for adoption is ultimately up to you, don’t put it all upon yourself to become an expert on adoption! It’s OK to seek out guidance from social workers and adoption experts who are employed at an adoption agency near you, like Adoption Choices of Florida. Our agency, and other agencies, too, in fact, encourages you and other birth mothers who are considering adoption to feel free to reach out with any questions and concerns, both adoption and pregnancy-related.
Though the internet has become a wonderful resource for birth mothers to find answers to their questions and put their concerns at ease, the amount of information you can find online can be overwhelming. It may be uncomfortable to reach out to our agency at first, but doing so can narrow down your search for the answers you are looking for. Adoption Choices of Floria seeks to make it simple for you. As the birth mother, your only concerns should be staying healthy, creating an adoption plan for you baby -- with the help of experts and social workers at our agency -- and preparing for your due date!
Don’t be Afraid to Ask Adoption Choices of Florida…
1. What are my options for adoption? What are the differences between open, semi-open and closed adoptIon?
You can easily find information about the three types of adoption on the internet, but our agency is more than willing to help you explore the differences between the three, to help you determine which is best for you and your child!
Choosing which type of adoption is right for you and your child is one of the most important decisions you’ll make throughout the adoption process, so don’t take it lightly. Essentially what it’ll come down to is whether or not you want to maintain contact and/or have a relationship with your child and his or her adoptive family.
2. Do I get to meet/choose my child’s adoptive family?
Depending on which type of adoption you choose, you may very well get to meet and select your child’s adoptive family! If you choose open or semi-open adoption, you’ll have a greater chance at getting to meet and choose from potential adoptive families for your child. Because of the confidentiality and anonymity aspects of closed adoption, it’s less likely that you’d be able to choose an adoptive family for your child.
3. Can I stay in contact with and/or have a relationship with my child and/or his or her adoptive family?
Again, this depends on which type of adoption you choose. If you choose open or semi-open adoption for your child, the likelihood that you will get to build a positive relationship with your child and his or her adoptive family increases.
If you’re concerned about your privacy and opt for closed adoption, it’s unlikely that you will have any relationship with your child and his or her adoptive family. Even if you do choose closed adoption, rest assured that our agency will assure your child is adopted by a loving, caring family. If you choose closed adoption, keep in mind there’s a good chance that once your child turns 18, he or she will want to search for you. You must decide if making contact and/or establishing a relationship with your child is something you want.
4. What role does my child’s birth father play in the adoption process?
The answer to this question depends upon your relationship with the birth father of your child. There are a few types of birth fathers: supportive and involved, unsupportive, unfit as determined by a judge, and unknown.
Generally, you must at least try to inform your child’s biological father of your plans to place your child for adoption. Exceptions to this rule are made in some cases, most commonly ones involving birth mothers who’ve become pregnant as a result of sexual assault. For more information on the types of birth fathers, please click here.
5. Will adoption cost me a lot of money? Is there any way I can get paid for placing my child for adoption?
Birth mothers do not have to worry about any adoption costs! Adoption Choices of Florida has the funds and resources available to help pay for any expenses, costs and fees related to the adoptive process and your child’s adoptive family is often more than willing to help out financially, too. Your only focus as the birth mother should be on staying healthy, creating your child’s adoption plan and preparing for your due date.
You do not get paid for placing your child for adoption, which may be disappointing if you’re struggling financially. Again, though, it can be a relief to know that you won’t have to pay for any doctor’s visits, counseling, legal fees and so on, which will either be taken care of by your child’s adoptive family or our agency!
Asking for Help isn’t Always Easy, but…
At Adoption Choices of Florida, we know how difficult it can be to ask for help. Many people, especially birth mothers, see it as a sign of weakness or failure. The truth is, asking for help is just the opposite of failure. Remember, you’re human and it’s OK to not know everything about everything. That’s exactly why there are experts -- like the folks at our adoption center in Florida -- to help answer your questions, address your concerns and assist you in creating an adoption plan for your child.
So, as difficult as it may be for you to reach out and to ask for help, our agency wants you to! If you decide to seek out Adoption Choices of Florida for help, know that placing your trust in us will not only benefit you, it will benefit your child. Our goal, like yours, is to make decisions that will give your child the opportunity to become a part of a loving adoptive family and the chance to have the life and the future that he or she deserves.
If you are a birth parent considering adoption, and have any questions or concerns about the process, please don’t hesitate to reach out. For more information on adoption, visit us at Adoption Choices of Florida or call us at: 800-985-8108