For a birth mother who’s decided to place her child for adoption, every decision related to the adoption process is made with the most extreme care and with her child’s best interest at the forefront of her mind. When it comes to choosing the right adoption attorney, it’s especially important to choose with care and caution, as you want an attorney who’s top priority, like yours, is doing what’s in the best interest of your child.
But how do you know what to look for in an adoption attorney? There are a lot of wonderful characteristics, qualities and attributes that make for a good adoption attorney, but perhaps the best way to know an adoption attorney is a good one is to take note of his or her passion for helping others -- especially birth mothers. There’s no shortage of adoptive families in the United States, but birth mothers are harder to come across and it’s harder to gain their trust.
As a birth mother, if you work with Adoption Choices of Florida, we will arrange legal services for you. You do not need to find an attorney. The tips below can apply for finding an adoption agency too and guess what, we fit the mold and would love to help you through the adoption process! Visit us at Adoption Choices of Florida or call us at: 800-985-8108
So, if you’re a birth mother considering adoption for your child, the most important thing you need to know is to look for someone who’s not only committed to helping your child, but also to helping you! Birth mothers, more often than not, go through the adoption process alone, which is why it’s so vital for them to have an adoption attorney who is in their corner and ready to help by providing comfort and support, a wealth of knowledge about the process and who is truly passionate about helping to bring birth mothers, children and adoptive families together through the miracle of adoption!
5 Qualities to Look for When Choosing an Adoption Attorney
1. Caring, Kind and Supportive
It’s important for your adoption attorney to be caring, kind and, most of all, supportive of you throughout the adoption process. As you’ll quickly learn, the adoption process isn’t easy. So, your adoption attorney must also be compassionate and patient, with a strong commitment to helping you create an adoption plan and finding the perfect adoptive family for your child.
As aforementioned, a passion for helping people is also a must-have quality in an adoption attorney. Don’t settle for an adoption attorney who views his or her career as just a paycheck!
2. Knowledgeable and Highly Recommended with Lots of Experience
Your adoption attorney should come highly recommended and have a good amount of experience under his or her belt. For birth mothers considering adoption, it’s very reassuring to know that your adoption attorney has successfully helped many children become a part of loving, caring adoptive families. When seeking out an adoption attorney, remember to do your research! If you’re unsure where to begin, a simple internet search may be helpful OR feel free to reach out to an adoption agency nearest you.
Adoption agencies are a wonderful resource and are often more than willing to provide you with information on adoption attorneys who will make the legal aspects of the adoption process seem like a breeze!
3. Good Communication, Easily Contactable and Always Willing to Help
A great adoption attorney should be easy to get a hold of! If you have any questions throughout the adoption process, whether it’s one based on new research you’ve done or one you’ve asked a thousand times, your adoption attorney should be easily accessible and always willing to provide you with answers. Likewise, if you have any concerns throughout the adoption process, you should feel comfortable bringing those up with him or her.
Remember, your adoption attorney, as well as social workers, other adoption experts and your agency, want to help you!
4. Organized, Clear and Honest
On a similar note, the ideal adoption attorney should be able to address your concerns and provide answers to your questions in a manner that is easy to understand, clear and concise. A lot of birth mothers going through the adoption process find it intimidating to ask questions, usually out of fear of judgement. Remember, as important as it is for you to do your own research on adoption, don’t rely on yourself to become an expert! That’s what adoption agencies, social workers and adoption attorneys are trained for. Helping you to do whatever’s in the best interest of your child is their top priority because they care about your child just about as much as you do!
When choosing an adoption attorney, also be sure to seek out someone who’s honest. There’s no sugarcoating it: the adoption process takes time -- a lot of it -- and is often quite the emotional roller coaster. The best adoption attorneys are honest about the ups and the downs of the adoption process, but will always be there to comfort and support you every step of the way!
5. Connections to Other Experienced Adoption Experts
As you likely know by now, the adoption process takes a team of experts to help you create your child’s adoption plan and ensure that every step in your adoption process goes as smoothly as possible. Again, choosing an experienced adoption attorney is a great way to ensure your child will be adopted by a family who will provide him or her with love, care and a chance at a better future. It’s also a great way for you to access the best social workers, guidance counselors and therapists, and other adoption experts.
Remember, it takes a team of experts to help you through the adoption process. You’ve chosen adoption because you’ve determined that that’s what’s in the best interest of your child, so it’s important to surround yourself with a team who’s going to help you achieve that!
Trust Your Adoption Attorney… and Trust Yourself, too!
Once you’ve got a great team of adoption experts behind you - an attorney, social workers, counselors, etc. - you’ll probably feel a great sense of relief, though you may have found it difficult at first to reach out to an adoption agency for help. That’s natural. Sometimes it can be challenging to admit you need the extra hand and reach out with questions. But again, once you’ve determined your team, you’ll have a great start to an excellent support system, which is what you’ll need as you go through the adoption process. They’ll most certainly be able to guide you through creating an adoption plan and preparing for each step in the process.
Keep in mind, though, that your attorney(s), your social worker(s) and your counselor(s) can’t make decisions for you. Your agency and its experts can guide you, but, ultimately, it’s up to you to make decisions that are in your child’s best interest. If that sounds a little scary, don’t worry! Most birth mothers feel that way. As hard as it may be, you must trust yourself! Though you’ve chosen not to raise your child, your parental instincts will kick in to some extent and you will know what’s right when it comes time for you to make big decisions.
If you are a birth parent considering adoption, and have any questions or concerns about the process, please don’t hesitate to reach out. For more information on adoption, visit us at Adoption Choices of Florida or call us at: 800-985-8108