Placing A Baby for Adoption in the Hospital: Last Minute Adoptions in Florida
If there’s one thing you should know as a birth mother, it’s that it’s never too late to be a responsible parent and make the decision to place your child for adoption. Up until the moment you give birth (and even after), you may have had every intention of caring for and raising your child. But sometimes, it takes actually seeing your baby and holding him or her in your arms (or bringing him home) to realize that you’re not able to be the parent he or she needs. Though it’s a very difficult, painful decision to make, you must put aside what you want and consider what’s in the best interest of your child.
The process of last minute adoption is, well, very last minute! That said, you shouldn’t worry about the hurriedness of the last minute adoption process. Most adoption agencies -- including Adoption Choices of Florida -- have a plan in place if you choose to place your child for adoption on the day your child is born. No two adoptions are alike, but all processes follow a similar pattern -- choosing the type of adoption, creating an adoption plan, selecting your child’s adoptive parents, etc. The process of last minute adoption is similar in that it includes completing all of those steps, however you’ll complete them at a much quicker pace than that of a normal adoption process.
A Step-by-Step Guide to Last Minute Adoptions
Selecting Your Adoption Agency
Your first step in the last minute adoption process is to contact an adoption agency and get connected with an adoption professional and/or social worker. Contacting an adoption agency -- like Adoption Choices of Florida -- should be done just before or right after your child is born. Again, most agencies have a process in place for adoptions cases like this, but the sooner you reach out, the better.
Choosing the Type of Adoption
Once you’ve connected with an adoption agency, your next step is choosing which type of adoption you feel is the best fit for both you and your child. There are three types of adoption to choose from -- open, semi-open, or closed adoption.
Each type of adoption has its own unique advantages and disadvantages, but in a last-minute adoption, you won’t have much time to learn in-depth about each one. Your adoption professional will be more than willing to help you understand the differences between each type of adoption, but ultimately the decision is yours. For more information on the three types of adoption, please visit our blog on the three types of adoption.
Creating Your Adoption Plan
Even in a last minute adoption process, creating your child’s adoption plan is probably going to take the most amount of time. Unless you opt for a closed adoption, the most important pieces of information that should be included in your child’s adoption plan are family and medical history. You should also list your preferences regarding your child’s adoptive parents and family -- do you prefer your child’s adoptive parents to be younger or older? Does the sexuality of your child’s adoptive parents matter to you? Would you prefer your child to be raised by adoptive parents who are of the same race or religion as you? Do you have a preference regarding the occupations of your child’s adoptive parents?
As you’re creating your child’s adoption plan, you should also be considering how you want their future to look. Perhaps you’re hoping they become well-traveled or go to college at a good school. If you opt for an open or semi-open adoption, think about what role you want to play in your child’s life and future. How much communication do you want with your child? What about with your child’s adoptive family?
At Adoption Choices of Florida, we understand that there’s a lot for you to consider about your child’s future in such a short amount of time. Though we’re more than willing to answer your questions and address your concerns, every adoption-related decision throughout the process is up to you. Trust yourself to do the right thing, for both you and for your child.
Selecting Your Child’s Adoptive Family
Once your adoption professional and/or social worker has reviewed your adoption plan and preferences regarding your child’s adoptive family, you’ll move onto one of the final steps in the last-minute adoption process -- choosing your child’s adoptive parents. Based on your preferences, your adoption professional will provide you with a list of potential adoptive families for you to review. You won’t have much time to choose your child’s adoptive family -- or get to know them -- as these families are on-call and awaiting your decision. Keep in mind that if you’ve opted for an open or semi-open adoption, you’ll more than likely have the opportunity to meet and get to know your child’s adoptive family after the adoption has been finalized!
Finalizing the Last Minute Adoption Process
In the final step of the last minute adoption process, you’ll sign paperwork relinquishing your parental rights and consent to the adoption of your child by their adoptive parents. Once you’ve done so, and once your baby has been checked out and deemed healthy by a doctor, your child’s adoptive parents are allowed to go home with the newest addition to their family. Once they get settled in, and if you’ve opted for an open or semi-open adoption, you may reach out and connect to see how things are going.
And with open and semi-open adoption becoming more common amongst birth and adoptive parents alike, you, your child and your child’s adoptive family are much more likely to stay in touch and build healthy, positive relationships with each other. This will be beneficial for the adoption triad in the long run, especially your child, as they will grow up being able to ask questions and feel more secure in their identity.
Don’t Be Intimidated by the Last Minute Adoption Process!
Choosing last minute adoption right before or immediately after the birth of your child might seem like an overwhelmingly stressful decision. There is no doubt that making that decision will be a little of both -- overwhelming and stressful. Though the process is meant to occur quickly, Adoption Choices of Florida doesn’t want you to feel rushed. Placing a child for adoption is never easy, and making decisions about your child’s future last minute is certainly a lot of pressure.
But because we want you to feel comfortable and confident in your decision, we also want you to know that we’re here for you if you have any questions or concerns related to your child’s last minute adoption process. Rest assured that Adoption Choices of Florida has a well-established team of experienced, passionate adoption professionals to guide you through your last minute adoption process without any pressure and while keeping your stress levels to a minimum!
If you are a birth parent considering adoption, and have any questions or concerns about the process, please don’t hesitate to reach out. For more information on adoption, visit us at Adoption Choices of Florida or call us at: 800-985-8108