What are My Options for an Unplanned Pregnancy as a Birth Mother in Florida?
The scariest test you will ever have to take is the one where you squat over a stick and then wait for the results of negative or positive. Whether you are in your teens, twenties or forties, an unplanned pregnancy can be a hard truth to handle. Many thoughts can rush through your brain. What will my family think? How do I tell the father? Can I really raise this child?
All good questions; but, unfortunately, not ones with easy answers. There is no one answer that fits all for these types of circumstances, and there are a lot of factors to consider. If you feel overwhelmed and aren’t sure where to start -- don’t worry! You’re in good hands. Adoption Choices of Florida will help you navigate all your options for an unplanned pregnancy as a birth mother and determine which is best for you.
Option 1 - Terminate the Pregnancy
Depending on how far along you are, and your personal circumstances, you can get an abortion. It is an ugly word and, most times, kept secret from family and friends when this option is chosen, but it’s still an available option for an unplanned pregnancy. In the state of Florida, you have up until 24 weeks to decide if that is what you really want. It is highly recommended that you see see a counselor first and talk through the process and associated emotions of getting an abortion. You might also want to consider telling a friend or close family member about what you are going through. Having support, and someone there to care for you, can make a world of difference.
Once you arrive at the clinic, a nurse may give you an option to see an ultrasound before moving forward. However, you do not have to see it or explain why you don’t want to see it if you don’t want to. From the moment you discover you’re pregnant, the choice of what you do is yours. No one can or should ever force you into a decision.
Option 2 – Parenting the Baby
If you decide against terminating your pregnancy, another available option is keeping your baby. The timing may not be perfect, but maybe you’ve always wanted a family and determine that you want to raise your child. The choice to keep your baby is hard, and there are many things to consider.
Are you emotionally, mentally, physically ready to become a parent? Have you thought about the financial responsibilities you’ll add to your life? Food, clothing, housing, doctor’s visits, daycare, etc. can all add up -- and quickly! Will you have a strong support system ready to help you? Family and friends can be good resources to use, and may be more likely to offer help and support when it comes to a new baby entering into the world. But, nevertheless, when thinking about your child and his or her needs, it’s important to know whether or not you can provide for them. Florida may not be the cheapest place to live, but it’s not impossible to raise your child in this state if you choose to keep your baby.
Option 3 – Choosing Adoption
We saved the best for last: Your third option with an unplanned pregnancy is choosing to place your baby for adoption. Yet,thinking about giving up your baby for adoption could be even as scary as finding out you are pregnant. There are just as many unknowns. Not knowing what the adoption process is like, what the legal aspects are or if your child will be going to a good home. Then, of course, there’s deciding how much contact you want to have with your child and their adoptive parents after the adoption is finalized. There are three different levels of openness to choose from -- open, semi-open or closed. But that’s where our adoption professionals come in. We will make sure that you understand everything and give you the final say. You have full control over your adoption journey.
If you are thinking of adoption in Florida, give our agency a call. We would be more than happy to answer any questions or address any concerns you have about adoption. You can also check out our website, where you will find helpful resources, as well as information from others in similar situations. Adoption provides you with the amazing option to provide your child with the life they deserve and the peace of mind knowing that he or she is growing up in a loving, supportive and caring home.
Options for an Unplanned Pregnancy for a Birth Mother
Having all these choices handed to you when you find out you’re pregnant can be overwhelming. An important thing to remember in the hard times, though, is that you are not alone. Our adoption caseworkers and counselors are here for you and will walk with you from the moment you start your adoption journey.
Remember, you are in control over what happens. Each of the options listed above have their own pros and cons, but you have a choice. Not one is better than the other, and no one other than you should make the final decision of what you do with your unplanned pregnancy. There will always be those one or two people who disagree with you and voice their opinion, but don’t let that deter you. You are the only one who knows the best choice for you and your baby. You never have to explain yourself or feel like you have to rationalize what choice you made. Stay strong and believe in what you choose is right.If you are a birth parent considering adoption, and have any questions or concerns about the process, please don’t hesitate to reach out. For more information on adoption, visit us at Adoption Choices of Florida or call us at: 800-985-8108
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