8 Reasons Birth Mothers Choose Adoption in Florida
Adoption has become an increasingly common decision amongst women going through an unplanned pregnancy, but it’s important to remember that each birth mother has her own reasons for choosing adoption. Whatever her reasoning, choosing adoption is a wonderful decision, and one that will allow her to be actively involved in the planning of her child’s future. For some, it can be difficult to understand why a woman would choose to place her child for adoption, which is why Adoption Choices of Florida has prepared a brief list of some of the main reasons birth mothers in Florida choose adoption.
8 Reasons Florida Birth Mothers Choose Adoption
She’s Not Ready or Doesn’t Want to be a Mother
Women going through an unplanned pregnancy more than likely choose adoption for a number of reasons, with two of the most common being that they’re not ready or have no strong desire to experience parenthood. Both of these reasons are perfectly OK, so it’s important for you to not let anyone tell you otherwise.
Many people are still of the old mindset that a woman is incomplete or selfish if she chooses not to start a family, which couldn’t be further from the truth. Your life is yours. So, if you’re experiencing an unplanned pregnancy and don’t feel ready to start a family or don’t want to raise a child at all, know that adoption is always an option for you.
She’s Not Financially Stable
A woman’s financial situation is often a major factor in her decision to place her child for adoption. There’s no hiding the fact that raising a child is expensive, so if you’re going through an unplanned pregnancy but are struggling to make ends meet, there’s no shame in reaching out to your local adoption agency and asking a few questions about the adoption process.
And for those who are concerned about adoption-related expenses, you needn’t worry. Most adoption agencies -- and adoptive families -- offer financial assistance to birth mothers going through the adoption process, so you can stay focused on creating your child’s adoption plan, keeping up with your doctor’s visits and staying healthy, and preparing for your due date.
She Doesn’t Live in a Home or Environment Conducive to Raising a Child
When it comes to raising her child, it’s important for a birth mother to be living in a safe, stable home environment. For birth mothers who are homeless, bouncing between homes, or who are living in a toxic environment with other people, it may be time to consider adoption if you’re experiencing an unplanned pregnancy.
If you’ve already decided upon adoption, but are concerned about your health, safety, or well-being in your current living situation, it’s important for you to contact an adoption agency as soon as possible. Once you do so, a social worker will be able to help you figure out a new living situation, so you can focus on and prepare for the next steps in the adoption process.
She’s Single or in an Unstable Relationship
Adoption is also a common decision amongst women who are single or in an unstable relationship. Often, these women are aware of the challenges that come from single parenthood and understand that an unstable relationship does not set a healthy example for a child. For birth mothers who aren’t ready to embrace single parenthood or who are in an unstable relationship, your local adoption agency can help you create an adoption plan if you feel that placing your child for adoption is in their best interest.
She’s Working Toward Personal or Professional Goals
Raising a child is a full-time commitment, which can be difficult for women who are working toward personal and/or professional goals. Women who wish to prioritize these goals often choose adoption, as adoption agencies are more than willing to work around their busy schedules to help them create their child’s adoption plan.
It’s important for the busy birth mothers out there to make a commitment to the adoption process if they choose to play an active role in planning for their child’s future. At Adoption Choices of Florida, we understand that your goals are important to you, but so is your child’s future. And as aforementioned, we’re more than willing to work with your schedule, so we can help you to ensure your child has a bright future with a loving adoptive family.
She’s Lacking a Strong Support System
As an expectant parent, it’s extremely important for you to surround yourself with people who are going to support you no matter what. For birth mothers lacking a strong, healthy support system, adoption is an excellent decision. Though it can be hard to go through the adoption process without family or friends by your side, you can always count on your adoption agency -- and your child’s adoptive family --to comfort and support you throughout the process.
At Adoption Choices of Florida, we know we cannot replace your family and friends, but we can promise to do everything within our power to support you and provide you with the resources you need to plan for your child’s future.
She’s a Victim/Survivor of Sexual Assault
When a woman becomes unexpectedly pregnant as a result of a sexual assault, it’s very common for her to choose adoption. It goes without saying that sexual assault is an extremely traumatic experience for a birth mother and her unplanned pregnancy can be a painful reminder of what happened to her.
For birth mothers experiencing a situation similar to this, it’s important for you to understand that what you’re going through is not your fault and it’s OK to choose adoption, since it’s absolutely critical for you to be focused on your own healing and recovery process.
She’s Considered Her Other Options and Feels Adoption is the Right Choice
As you may or may not know, it’s important for a woman going through an unplanned pregnancy to consider her options. It can be intimidating to make decisions regarding your unplanned pregnancy, but the more informed you are about each of your options, the more confident you’ll feel when you make your final decision.
There’s a lot to know when it comes to adoption, so if you’re concerned about information overload, you may find it helpful to reach out to an adoption agency -- like Adoption Choices of Florida -- and ask questions. Every decision regarding your pregnancy is ultimately up to you; but again, take time to think about what you want, educate yourself, and trust your gut. If you’ve done your research, but you also feel that adoption is best for you and your child -- trust that feeling! Only you know what’s truly in the best interest of your child.
There’s No Shame in Choosing Adoption!
Again, there are many different reasons a birth mother chooses to place her child for adoption -- even more reasons than those listed in this blog. But regardless of your reasoning, you should never be ashamed or embarrassed of placing your child for adoption. If you’ve determined that placing your child for adoption is within his or her best interest, then why wouldn’t you do it? After all, you’re still a parent! Although you’re not raising your child yourself, your voice is the most important when it comes to creating your child’s adoption plan, choosing the adoptive family, and ensuring that their life and their future is filled with two things that many people spend much of their lives looking for -- love and happiness.
If you are a birth parent considering adoption, and have any questions or concerns about the process, please don’t hesitate to reach out. For more information on adoption, visit us at Adoption Choices of Florida or call us at: 800-985-8108