5 Interesting -- and Surprising! -- Facts about Open Adoption
For birth mothers who have become unexpectedly pregnant and are exploring the possibility of placing their baby for adoption, you may have been shocked to have stumbled upon the three types of adoption during your research. Nowadays, women have a lot more options regarding their unplanned pregnancies than women in past years.
Three types of adoption? As if you didn’t already have enough decisions to make about your unplanned pregnancy! But don’t let the numbers scare you away from choosing adoption. Yes, there are three types of adoption, but it’s important for you to keep in mind that when going through an unplanned pregnancy, it’s nice to have options. Remember, whatever decisions you make regarding your pregnancy are going to impact both you and your child for the rest of your lives.
Rather than overwhelm with the three types of adoption right away, Adoption Choices of Florida has created a blog dedicated to exploring the most common type of adoption in the United States -- open adoption. It’s ultimately up to you to determine which type of adoption is best for both you and your child, but to help you gather more information, we’ve listed five of the most interesting -- and surprising -- facts about open adoption, just for you!
5 Facts about Open Adoption that May Surprise You
Open Adoption is the Most Preferred Type of Adoption Amongst Birth Mothers and Adoptive Parents
Most people, not just new birth mothers and adoptive parents, are shocked to find out that open adoption -- or an adoption with some level of openness -- is very common. As you’ll soon find out, it’s the communication aspect of open adoption that makes it so appealing to birth mothers and adoptive families throughout Florida and the rest of the United States.
Openness and Communication Between the Adoption Triad is Mutually Beneficial and Strengthens Relationships
The goal of open adoption is to encourage communication between the adoption triad, which consists of you, your child, and the adoptive family. To achieve this goal -- and do what’s in the best interest of your child -- it’s especially important for you and the adoptive parents to communicate well with each other.
The better you communicate with each other, the better you’ll understand each other, and the stronger your relationships with each other will be, which will be important as your child grows up and begins to ask questions about you and other birth family members that the adoptive parents won’t necessarily be able to answer. Good communication between you and your child’s adoptive parents will also set an excellent example of what healthy, positive communication with others should look like.
Adoption Professionals and Social Workers within the Field Agree that Open Adoption is the Most Beneficial to the Adoption Triad
Open adoption isn’t just preferred by birth mothers and adoptive parents. Professionals within the field of adoption also agree that open adoption is the most advantageous to the adoption triad because of its communication aspect. Adoptees benefit a great deal from their birth mothers or other birth family members being involved in their lives and futures because they often struggle with identity-related issues. Often birth families are the only ones who can give adoptees answers to their identity-related questions.
So remember, the better you and the adoptive parents can communicate openly and in a healthy, positive manner, the better. Remember, adoption is less about you and the adoptive parents than it is about the child you now share. Always be mindful of your child’s best interest!
More Often Than Not, Adoptees WANT to Know Their Birth Mother/Family
It’s completely normal for adoptees to be curious about who their birth families are and where they come from. Again, children who have been adopted often struggle with their identities, which is where having a birth mother in the picture can be helpful. Being involved in your child’s life means that you have the incredible opportunity to help your child discover a piece of him or herself that was missing before.
Open adoption also helps adoptees as they grow up to understand why they were placed for adoption, rather than being raised by their birth mother or family. Because of the open communication aspect of open adoption, more birth mothers are given the chance to clear the air with the child or children they placed for adoption. Having this conversation can be difficult, but it can also be enlightening, as well as give both you and your child a sense of closure.
Choosing Open Adoption Means that the Adoptee and their Adoptive Family have a Greater Chance at Gaining Access to Important Birth Family Medical Information and History
Open adoption has a lot of great benefits, but perhaps one of most important ones is that adoptees and their adoptive families are much more likely to be granted access to crucial birth family medical history and information. In closed adoption cases -- and even in semi-adoption cases -- the chances of getting that information are a lot slimmer. Having access to this information is extremely important, especially if the adoptee or their adoptive parents suspect some underlying medical predisposition, condition, or issue.
Open Adoption is Great, but be Sure to Consider Your Other Options!
Now that we’ve laid out five interesting facts about open adoption for you, you’ve hopefully gotten a clearer understanding of the most common type of adoption. Open adoption is wonderful and if you choose it, we know you won’t regret it. That said, you should still consider your other adoption options. Just because open adoption is preferred by most birth mothers and adoptive families doesn’t mean that it’s right for you and your child. Semi-open and closed adoption aren’t uncommon and can be just as successful as open adoption!
So, if you’re still a little uncertain about choosing open adoption and feel that semi-open or closed adoption may be a better fit for you, then by all means should you explore those possibilities! For more information on the three types of adoption, please visit Adoption Choices of Florida’s blog on the three types of adoption.
If you are a birth parent considering adoption, and have any questions or concerns about the process, please don’t hesitate to reach out. For more information on adoption, visit us at Adoption Choices of Florida or call us at: 800-985-8108