What Does it Take to be a Good Mom?
It’s hard to define what a good mother is. There are so many different views and opinions that it has truly become a matter of perspective. The definition of a good mother now seems to be determined through exhibiting certain qualities and tendencies. Or, perhaps, a specific parenting style. So, it’s not surprising that many expectant women question whether or not they have what it takes to be a good mother.
Being a mother is not easy. In fact, it is one of those things that deserves an award of the highest honor. If you feel nervous or anxious about being a mom, you are not alone. All mothers feel the same way!
Motherly Characteristics, Qualities and Tendencies:
A Nurturing Nature...
Mothers are the most nurturing individuals. If you are a nurturing person and are considering motherhood, this is an excellent quality to have. Children, especially when they are young, need a mother to give them extra special care. As they grow, they will need a mother who can guide and support them on their journey to adulthood.
Some mothers can be a little overprotective; but, in general, a sense of protectiveness over the people in your life is a sure sign you will be a good mom one day!
It’s OK to make Mistakes...
Just like life, motherhood has no “How-To” manual. If you make mistakes, that’s ok. You aren’t perfect. Motherhood comes with a steep learning curve. All good mothers make mistakes. That’s part of what makes them good at motherhood. When we make mistakes, we learn from them. We adapt and find new and better ways for next time.
Knowing Your Strengths and Weaknesses...
Motherhood is the ultimate test of your strengths and weaknesses. So, if you know yourself well, this will help you when you become a mother. Being a mom will give you the opportunity to use your strengths to your advantage and help you improve upon your weaknesses.
Accepting the Good and Bad …
Good days are great. Bad days are inevitable. If you have accepted this already, this will make motherhood a little easier. Sometimes, it may feel like there are more bad days than good ones. In those moments, remember to never give up. Remind yourself why you became a mom in the first place! This will help you give you the strength you need to make it through.
Vulnerability and being able to Express Emotions
Children will push you to your emotional limits (and probably physical ones, too)! If you are able to express your emotions rather than bottling them up, this will be healthier for you and helpful to you when you become a mother.
Strong Dedication and Commitment to What’s Important to You...
Being a mother is a full-time and lifetime commitment. If you are a dedicated person -- to your job, family and friends, and whatever else is important to you -- this will translate over when you become a mother as well.
Unbreakable Strength, Saying ‘No,’ and Setting Boundaries...
Children will test you emotionally and mentally. But if you are good at standing your ground with others, setting boundaries and are able to put your foot down and say “no,” then you will probably be able to do these things well as a mom, too.
Being able to Let Go of the Things that don’t Matter...
Along those same lines, as a mother, it is important to pick your battles. You will learn as you go what is worth fighting over and what is not.
When things do not go according to plan, do you freak out or just go with the flow? If you adapt to sudden changes easily, this is a great quality to bring with you when you decide to become a mother! Most mothers will often come up with a plan of action, but are always mindful of how quickly things can change.
Being able to Take Care of Yourself is a Must!
When you become a mom, you have people counting on you. It is important to remember, however, that you must take care of yourself before you can take care of others! Be sure to practice self-care whenever you can. Ask friends and family to lend a hand. Go for a walk. Write in your journal. Take yourself to the spa. Do things that give you a sense of calm and help you relax!
Working Hard...Playing Harder!
There is no doubt that being a mom is hard work! But, as challenging as motherhood can be, it can also be fun! If you play as hard as you work, you will be a great mom! As important as it is to be able to parent your children, it is just as important to be able to have fun with them!
Being Supportive of Others
Supporting family, friends and others is another sure sign that you will be a good mother. As children grow, they need the unconditional love and unwavering support of their mother no matter what!
An Excellent Sense of Humor!
If you can use humor to get through some of those tougher days, it is important to bring that into motherhood with you. Stressing all the time is no fun, sometimes it is better to just laugh things off!
You Are a Good Mom
If you are still a little nervous or scared to be a mother, the answer to the question “Will I be a good mother?” is right in front of you. Yes, you WILL be a good mother. All mothers are a little afraid at first. No mother really knows what she is doing. Her first step, though, is to take that fear and those nerves and turn them into something positive. Doing so can help her plan and prepare for her future as a mother. Once she reaches motherhood, she will grow through her mistakes, learn to ask for help when she needs it and find what works for her and for her children.Adoption Choices of Florida is here to help you make the best decisions for your adoption plan! Call us anytime at 800-985-8108