Should I Buy My Child’s Adoptive Parents a Gift?
The holiday season is perhaps the most difficult times of the year for birth mothers who are going through the adoption process or who have already been through it. Often, things become even more complicated for birth mothers who are unsure of whether or not they have to get a gift for their child’s adoptive parents. Gift giving can be tricky, even for people who aren’t going through the adoption process. So, should you buy a gift for your child’s adoptive parents this holiday season? Below, Adoption Choices of Florida helps you answer one of the most commonly asked questions by birth mothers during the holidays.
Buying Your Child’s Adoptive Parents a Holiday Gift -- Yes or No?
It’s entirely up to you whether or not you’d like to get your child’s adoptive parents a gift for the holidays, but if your gut is telling you to, then go for it! Getting your child’s adoptive parents a gift is a great way to remind them of how much you care for and appreciate them this holiday season.
Gift giving for your child’s adoptive parents can be both really fun and really difficult. If you don’t know that much about your child’s adoptive parents, you may find it more challenging to find the perfect gift for them. But even if you don’t know or haven’t met your child’s adoptive parents, you’ve probably got some idea of who they are based on their adoptive family profile, which is an excellent place to start if you’ve decided you'd like to get them a gift.
If you have had the opportunity to get to know your child’s adoptive parents, think about what you know about each of them -- their personalities, hobbies, interests, and so on -- and go from there. With a little more insight on who they are, you’re sure to find a great gift for your child’s adoptive parents!
Remember, you don’t have to go overboard on a gift for your child’s adoptive parents. When they receive your gift, they’ll more than likely be just touched by the simple fact that you thought of them enough to get them a gift during what is arguably one of the busiest, craziest times of the year!
Don’t feel obligated to get your child’s adoptive parents a gift if you don’t want to or if you’ve opted for a closed adoption and aren’t in contact with them. Again, the decision to get your child’s adoptive parents a holiday gift is completely up to you.
Even if you choose not to get your child’s adoptive parents a gift, there are still ways to honor them during this holiday season, if you wish to. Plant a tree in their honor, donate to your adoption agency, or volunteer at a charity or event of your choosing as a way of celebrating your child’s adoptive parents this holiday season.
Perhaps the holiday season is difficult for you, as it is for most birth mothers who are going through the adoption process or who have already been through it. Though it’s always nice to honor the child you placed for adoption and their adoptive family during the holidays, you may decide to focus on yourself and your personal healing process this season. Spend some time alone, remind yourself of who you are, and take good care of yourself, but don’t forget to reach out to members of your support system. Your relatives, close friends, community, and even the professionals at your adoption agency should always be supportive of you, but especially during the holiday season when spending time with loved ones is the most important!
Give Them Something that Connects You to Each Other
If you’re still at a loss for what to get your child’s adoptive parents this holiday season, think about the one thing that connects you to each other -- the adoption process. One great gift idea is to create a scrapbook or photo album filled with pictures and other mementos from the adoption process to give to your child’s adoptive parents, so they can remember the experience fondly. Handmade gifts are often the most thoughtful and creative of gifts, and are not only fun to receive, but to make as well!
With holidays being one of the most difficult times of the year for birth mothers, creating a photo album or memory book of the adoption process will also be a wonderful way for you to look back and remember the process in a positive light. And who knows? Perhaps one day your child will appreciate a memory book like this, too, so they too can look back fondly on the decision that you made that led all of you to where you are today!
If you are a birth parent considering adoption, and have any questions or concerns about the process, please don’t hesitate to reach out. For more information on adoption, visit us at Adoption Choices of Florida or call us at: 800-985-8108