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Important Questions to Ask Yourself before Placing Your Baby for Adoption

Important Questions to Ask Yourself before Placing Your Baby for Adoption

Finding out you’re pregnant and then figuring out what to do next can be stressful.. Questions fill your head -- What are your options? What needs to be done? Who can you talk to? -- and many others.. If you are a birth mother who has decided that adoption is the best decision, there are several important questions to ask yourself before placing your baby for adoption. These will help you better understand your choice and if this is the right option. After all, you have a big choice on your hands, and coming to the final decision can be nerve-wracking and overwhelming. 

If you’re struggling to narrow down the questions to ask yourself, you’re in good hands. We have compiled questions that can help you understand yourself, where you are coming from, and where to go from there. It is part of making a plan and knowing what to do to help you and your baby. Adoption Choices of Florida is here to help you work through these questions and find what is best for you and your baby. 

What is your situation at home?

Think about your baby and the reasons to put him or her up for adoption. Is one of your reasons because of your home life? Is it safe to raise the baby on your own? Is there enough help or support from family and friends? Can you afford to have a child? 

These questions, and more like this, are important to think about when choosing adoption. To answer this question, think about whether or not your child and your current situation. Your physical, emotional and financial capabilities. Are you able to provide for your child? Or, if not, would he or she be better growing up with an adoptive family?

What kind of adoptive family do you want for your child?

Even though you may not keep your baby, the choice is yours when it comes to picking the adoptive family he or she will go to. So, what kind of adoptive family do you envision for your child? Do you want a married couple with children already, or would you prefer first-time parents? What about having your child raised by a single parent, or those who are transracial or LGBT?

It is best to write down what you want as best as you can to help you select the best adoptive family for your child. If you need help, don’t hesitate to consult with your adoption caseworker.  Adoption Choices of Florida has many prospective adoptive families waiting, and your adoption caseworker can help you narrow down your choices and determine who best fits the wants you have for your child. 

What type of adoption do you want?

While choosing adoption is hard, being part of your baby’s life shouldn’t be. There are three types of adoptions: open, semi-open and closed adoptions. Each offers a different level of openness, depending on how much you want to stay involved in your child’s life after the adoption is finalized. If you’d like to have a relationship with your child and their adoptive parents, be sure to talk to your adoption caseworker about the difference between open and semi-open adoption. If you’d rather not have contact of any kind, ask your adoption caseworker about a closed adoption. There is no right or wrong type to choose. Only what is best for your and your child. 

Weighing these options can seem overwhelming, but it’s important to really about. Take your time and carefully pick apart each type of adoption available. See what they mean to you and what you want. 

What if you change your mind?

This may feel like a scary thought, but it is one of the important questions to ask yourself before placing your baby for adoption. We want you to feel confident in your decision, and not have any regrets. When you’re experiencing a range of emotions, it may be difficult to answer this question and that’s okay. Some birth mothers have changed their mind. Many after beginning the process. Others after their baby was born. All of this is valid and understandable. You do have the right to change your mind until you relinquish your parental rights. After that, and the adoption becomes finalized in court, there is no going back. 

That’s why it’s so important to keep in mind why you are placing your baby for adoption in the first place. To make sure that you’ve come to terms with your choice. To think long and hard before moving forward, and ensuring that you fully understand what placing your baby for adoption means. Is choosing adoption easy? No. Will you need to grieve? Yes. But, after that, depending on what type of adoption you choose, you’ll have a beautiful relationship with your child and their adoptive parents.

Where can you find support?

Not every family is supportive and helpful during the adoption process. This is why Adoption Choices of Florida has a support system in place to help you feel better about your choice. We are here to help work with you and give you the things you need to be healthy -- both physically and mentally. For, when you are safe and healthy, so is your baby, and we want to make sure that both of you are okay even after your child is born. 

Important Questions to Ask Yourself before Placing Your Baby for Adoption

Take the time to process these questions and others you have before coming to a final decision. You are not alone. Many other birth mothers are asking the same questions and wondering the same things that you are right now. If you want to connect with other birth mothers, research support groups specific for birth mothers in your area or online through social media. If you want to talk about your thoughts, don’t hesitate to set up an appointment with one of our adoption counselors.

To learn more about your options for an unplanned pregnancy and how to begin your adoption journey, be sure to check out our many resources at Adoption Choices of Florida.  Through our website, you can read others blogs, FAQs, and discover information about the adoption process and our services and much more. 

Remember -- don’t stop asking questions. The best way  to get help, support and answers is to speak up and ask the professionals. So, reach out. We are here for you.

If you are a birth parent considering adoption, and have any questions or concerns about the process, please don’t hesitate to reach out. For more information on adoption, visit us at Adoption Choices of Florida or call us at: 800-985-8108