Birth Mothers: What to Include in Your Adoption Hospital Plan
During the adoption process in Florida, one of your most important tasks is to create your hospital plan. Much like how your adoption plan lists your preferences regarding your baby’s adoption, your hospital plan allows you to organize your preferences related to your hospital stay at the time of your baby’s birth. If you’re early on in your pregnancy, you may be thinking, “That’s so far off in the future! I don’t need to worry about that yet!” Though nine months may seem like plenty of time to plan for your hospital visit, it’s going to fly by faster than you think. This is why it’s recommended to create your hospital plan sooner rather than later.
Why You Should Create Your Adoption Hospital Plan NOW
At this point in the adoption process, creating your hospital plan may seem like a minute, slightly annoying detail that you don’t want to concern yourself with just yet. But it’s important to keep in mind that the further you delay creating your hospital plan, the less likely you are to get it done. The day of your baby’s birth is perhaps the most significant day in the adoption process, so your sole focus should be on giving birth, not creating your hospital plan at the last minute. If you’re unsure of what to include in your hospital plan, Adoption Choices of Floridahas created a quick list of ideas to get you started!
What to Include in Your Adoption Hospital Plan
Your Preferences can Include, but aren’t Limited to...
Whether or not you want them or someone else from your support system at the hospital or in the room with you at the time your baby is born or after
Who will hold the baby first -- you don’t have to, but if you decide you want to
If you’d like to spend some alone time with your baby, and how much time you’ll think you’ll want or need
Whether or not you’d like to have photos or videos taken of your and your baby
Who will be keeping hospital-related mementos like the baby’s ID bracelet, baby blanket, stuffed animal, hat, etc.
Any other preferences you may have regarding your hospital stay
How Your Adoption Agency can Help You Create Your Adoption Hospital Plan
If you’ve started creating your hospital plan but find yourself still feeling unsure of what to include, reach out to your adoption agency counselor ask if they have any suggestions. Remember, your adoption agency is there to help you, no matter what it is your seeking guidance for. More than likely, they’ll have a list of ideas or a professional you can talk to who can help you determine what’s most important for you to include in your hospital plan. Creating your hospital might feel overwhelming at first, especially if you’re just beginning the adoption process, but try to make decisions that you feel are in the best interest of both you and your baby.
How Your Baby’s Adoptive Parents can Help You Create Your Adoption Hospital Plan
If you’ve opted for an open or semi-open adoptionand are struggling to create your hospital plan, you might try seeking out your baby’s adoptive parents for guidance! You never know what suggestions or ideas they might have and asking them for assistance is a wonderful way to open the lines of positive communication needed to build a healthy relationship. Also, if you’re considering having one or both of the adoptive parents in the room with you at the time of your baby’s birth, asking them for assistance in creating your hospital plan would also be an excellent time to ask them if they’d like to be present with you in the hospital room.
Ultimately, Your Hospital Plan is about You and Your Baby!
Whether you’re creating your hospital plan or making some other decision regarding your pregnancy, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Though adoption is an incredible journey, it’s one you shouldn’t take alone. That said, when seeking guidance from your adoption agency, your baby’s adoptive family, and/or family and friends be sure to keep in mind that every decision regarding your pregnancy -- including your birth and hospital plans -- is ultimately up to you. As scary as it may be to make decisions about your baby’s future, only you know what’s best for the both of you, so make every decision with your baby’s best interest at the forefront of your mind. Overall, don’t forget to trust yourself -- if you’ve already chosen adoption, then you’ve already made an excellent decision for yourself and more importantly, for your baby, so be confident in yourself as you continue to make decisions regarding your baby’s future.
For more information on birth/hospital plans, please visit Adoption Choices of Florida’s blog on why you should be creating your child’s birth/hospital plan now.
If you are a birth parent considering adoption, and have any questions or concerns about the process, please don’t hesitate to reach out. For more information on adoption, visit us at Adoption Choices of Florida or call us at: 800-985-8108