Best 4 Holiday Survival Tips for Birth Mothers
With the holidays all around us, it is a good thing to come up with a plan on how to get through them, especially as a birth mother. You need tips and tricks to make it through with as little trauma and drama as possible. It’s also a good idea to have a counselor, friend or family member you can go to and talk to. In other words, your support system. Everyone within your inner circle of support will be able to provide coping skills and encouragement you need to get through the tough times.
A good way to think of these holiday survival tips for birth mothers are that they are your tools, as you are building your own toolbox of coping skills. This toolbox is where you will pull from and use when things start to become overwhelming.
#1 Find Something to Touch
This might seem a bit strange, but it works. Using one of our most basic senses actually will help calm your nerves and relax your mind. Finding something smooth, soft or something you like to touch will help take your mind off the situation and anchor you in the present. Help you focus on how you are feeling. It is good to always carry something on you that you can easily reach for in times of need. This could be anywhere from a stress ball to a smooth rock to a finger spinner. Whatever works best for you.
#2 Download a Meditation Phone App
With the technology world growing around us, it is no wonder there are so many apps out there to help you meditate. Finding the right app may take time. You may need to download, try and then uninstall ones you don’t like. Yet, in the end, finding one that most suits you will help.
These apps are more for daily use and while that may not seem like it could help in times of need, the practice of it will help prepare you for those times. It is repetition that helps build that muscle memory and recall on it whenever. It can help teach you how to breathe properly and how to focus on your body and what is going on.
#3 Use Cold or Hot Water
Tensions thicken as the holidays near and blood pressure begins to rise. Cold or hot water is a great way to wake you up and bring you to reality, and uses your sense of touch in a different way. This one brings an element of temperature to help focus your mind. This, in turn, allows you to make an excuse to step away from any situations or conversations you may not want to have and feel a little relief. The sound of water can block out conversations or noise going on, helping that need to feel calm.
#4 Bring a Buddy
Having someone there next to you, to hold a hand or lend an ear or even be a distraction, is a good tool to have. To bring or have someone there you can trust and rely on when things start to get tough helps otherwise stressful situations be more bearable. Talk to them before the holiday event. Let them know what your stressors are and what to look for in you so you both have a plan of action.
A plan could look like a variety of things. For instance, they see your stress signs and come up with a reason to pull you aside, or to walk up and create a diversion. Good communication before going is important. This way you can feel comfortable and not alone in hard times.
Holiday Survival Tips for Birth Mothers
Holidays are tough things to go through for just about anyone. Being a birth mother during these times can be even more stressful. Not knowing if someone is going to ask you about your unplanned pregnancy or judge you for your decision to place your baby for adoption can be unnerving. Having to justify your reasons and have the conversation about choosing adoption during the holiday isn’t easy, especially if there are those around that you don’t know or trust. Family members, friends and strangers can be nosy and rude with questions, and sometimes not understanding about the situation.
But, if you ever find yourself in an overwhelming situation, remember these holiday survival tips for birth mothers. These tools can help relieve your stress and make the holidays a little better. Remember, you don’t have to explain yourself to anyone. You are doing what is best for the baby and yourself.
If you are a birth parent considering adoption, and have any questions or concerns about the process, please don’t hesitate to reach out. For more information on adoption, visit us at Adoption Choices of Florida or call us at: 800-985-8108