Adoption Gift Giving Etiquette as a Birth Mother
Gift giving -- whether you’re a birth mother or someone else -- is one the trickiest holiday tasks. Some love it, some hate it, but either way, it’s at the top of every family’s to-do list during the holiday season. For birth mothers, the holidays can be a difficult time, but they’re also the time of year at which you can choose to show your child and their adoptive family how much you care for and appreciate them. Some birth mothers choose not to get gifts for their child and the adoptive family, and that’s okay, too. But for those of you who are interested in finding just the right gift for their child’s adoptive family this year, Adoption Choices of Florida is here to teach you everything you need to know about holiday gift giving as a birth mother!
Gift Giving Etiquette as a Birth Mother
Getting a gift for your child and/or their adoptive parents is a decision that it entirely up to you to make. By no means are you required to get gifts for your child and/or their adoptive parents, however, if you’d like to then you should! Gift giving during the holidays is one of the best ways to show your child and their adoptive parents how much you love and appreciate them.
If You’ve Decided to Get Your Child and/or the Adoptive Family a Gift for the Holidays…
Whether you’re currently going through the adoption process or have already been through it, gift giving can be a tricky task for birth mothers. That said, birth mothers who’ve opted for an open or semi-open adoption might find it a little easier to pick out the perfect gift for her child and the adoptive parents.
Having had the opportunity to get to know your child’s adoptive parents -- over phone calls, text messages, emails, or in-person -- you more than likely have all the knowledge you need to find a great holiday gift for your child’s adoptive parents. Think about what you’ve learned so far about the adoptive parents -- their careers, their hobbies, their interests, and so on. Having knowledge of these things will make your holiday shopping all the easier when you’re ready to buy your child’s adoptive parents a thoughtful holiday gift!
Handmade gifts are another wonderful gift idea for birth mothers looking to get their child’s adoptive parents something special for the holidays. A photo or memory book of pictures and other mementos from the adoption process are often a fun thing to pass along to the adoptive family and can be shared with their child as he or she grows up. Creating handmade gifts -- like a photo or scrapbook -- can be emotional for birth mothers, but are also a great way for you to look back fondly on an experience that allowed you to give your child a better life and brighter future!
If You’ve Decided against Getting Your Child and/or the Adoptive Family a Gift for the Holidays...
Some birth mothers choose not to get gifts for their child and the adoptive parents because they simply don’t want to or because they’ve opted for a closed adoption, meaning that her own identity, as well as the identities of the adoptive parents, remains anonymous. If you opt out of getting gifts for your child and their adoptive parents for this reason, but still wish to honor them in some way during the holiday season, don’t worry! There are plenty of ways for you to celebrate your child and their adoptive family!
If you’re not involved in the lives of your child and their adoptive family,, honor them by donating to the adoption agency who helped you through the adoption process, dropping off food at your local food shelf, or volunteering to walk dogs at a pet shelter near you. Giving back to your community is an excellent way to keep your child and their adoptive family in your heart during the holidays!
When in Doubt, Keep it Simple!
If you decide to get a gift for your child and/or their adoptive family, remember that you don’t have to go overboard! People often feel like they have to get over-the-top, elaborate gifts for their loved one, but they really don’t! A lot of the time, it’s the simplest gifts that mean the most to the people you care about.
As new parents, your child’s adoptive family has got so much going on that something as simple as new baby clothes or a gift card to the grocery store will mean the world to them. In fact, they’ll probably be grateful for you for even thinking of them enough to get them a gift for the holidays. So, if you’re planning to get your child’s adoptive parents a gift for the holidays this year but just can’t seem to find the right thing, never underestimate the power of sticking to a simple, practical gift!
For more information on giving gifts to your child’s adoptive family during the holidays, please visit Adoption Choices of Florida’s blog “Should I Buy My Child’s Adoptive Parents a Gift?”
If you are a birth parent considering adoption, and have any questions or concerns about the process, please don’t hesitate to reach out. For more information on adoption, visit us at Adoption Choices of Florida or call us at: 800-985-8108