To place a child for adoption is, for birth mothers, perhaps the most important and most difficult decision you will ever have to make throughout your lifetime. To do so takes the most thoughtful, careful consideration, as it is a decision that will not only impact you for the rest of your life, but your child as well. For most people, not just birth mothers, just the thought of having to make that kind of decision is nerve-racking. If it’s difficult to imagine having to make this decision once, imagine how difficult it would be to have to make this kind of decision a second time.
For some birth mothers, the decision to place a second child for adoption is a reality, and an extremely emotional one, too. Placing a child for adoption is never easy, and of course, it doesn’t get any easier if you decide it’s something you must do for a second time.
You CAN Place a Child for Adoption with an Agency You’ve Used Before
If you’ve placed a child for adoption with an agency before, yes, you can go through that agency again if you decide to place another child for adoption. If you feel that placing your child for adoption is in his or her best interest, your adoption agency is going to be there to support you every step of the way.
Just like you, adoption agencies -- like Adoption Choices of Florida -- want what’s in the best interest of your child!
You CAN also Choose to Place a Child for Adoption with a Different Agency, if You Wish
If you’ve placed a child for adoption before, you’re probably aware of the emotions it can evoke: Feelings of guilt are common among birth mothers who decide that they cannot raise their child and make the decision to place him or her for adoption. For some birth mothers, working with the same adoption agency isn’t a comfortable option for them because they feel embarrassed or ashamed, or are fearful that they will be judged for returning in a similar situation.
Adoption Choices of Florida welcomes birth mothers from all walks of life. No matter what kind of help you need, you should feel safe and comfortable placing your child for adoption in a judgement-free environment!
Placing Your Child with the Adoptive Family of Your First Child
It’s common for birth mothers who’ve already placed a child for adoption to have their adoption agency -- whether it’s one they're familiar with or a new one -- reach out to the adoptive family of their first child, to find out whether or not they’d be interested in adopting again and raising the biological siblings together. Placing biological siblings together is ideal, of course, but it can’t always be guaranteed. It’s important to keep in mind that it takes time for both the child and the adoptive family to adjust once the adoption has been finalized. Most adoptive families are thrilled to adopt their child’s biological sibling, but make sure everyone involved in the adoption process is prepared to go through it again!
Going through the Adoption Process… Again!
If you decide to place another child for adoption, know that the decision to do so doesn’t get any easier. Every adoption is different, but you will without a doubt go through ups and downs, as you most likely did the first time you went through the adoption process. Make sure to consider your decisions carefully, take care of yourself -- both physically and mentally -- and to surround yourself with an excellent support system.
These are key to the success of your adoption process! Also, be aware that depending on which agency you work with, especially if you choose a different one, your adoption process may vary slightly. Every agency is a little different, but all work with your child’s best interest in mind and the goal of bringing families together!
Returning to an Agency You’re Familiar with
As aforementioned, placing a child for adoption is a tough decision to make. Making that decision a second time can be even more so. Though you can choose to place another child for adoption with a different agency, you may find comfort in returning to an agency you know and trust because they successfully guided them through the adoption process once before. But if you’re fearful of returning to an adoption agency you’ve previously worked with because you feel ashamed or embarrassed of being in a similar situation, don’t overthink it!
Remember, adoption agencies exist to help you, free of judgement. Like you, they only want what’s best for your child, and will work together with you to find a loving and caring adoptive family who can give your child the best and brightest future possible!
If you are a birth parent considering adoption, and have any questions or concerns about the process, please don’t hesitate to reach out. For more information on adoption, visit us at Adoption Choices of Florida or call us at: 800-985-8108