If you’re a birth mother considering adoption for your child, one of the most important questions you’ll ever ask yourself -- and probably more than once -- is “how do I know if adoption is right for myself and for my child?” This is a common, and excellent, question among birth mothers who are considering placing their child for adoption because it’s a life-changing decision for both them and their child.
For those wondering whether or not adoption is the right choice for them and their child, there are a few things you should know, but perhaps the most important is that from here on out, everything you do should be done with your child’s best interest at the forefront of your mind. Though seeking out guidance is advised, you are the only person who can determine if placing your child for adoption is in the best interest of him or her!
Adoption: Is it Right for Me and My Child? Here’s How You Know
Make Sure You Understand the Adoption Process! Do Your Research!
Placing a child for adoption is not an easy decision to make -- especially on your own, as most birth mothers are. Understanding the adoption process will make the decision to do so a lot less stressful! As the birth mother, it’s also important to understand your rights and responsibilities.
Birth moms, it’s up to you to determine which of the three types of adoption you want for your child: open, semi-open or closed. Each of these three options have its own advantages and disadvantages. But essentially, what it comes down to is whether or not you want a relationship and/or some form of communication with your child and his or her adoptive family. Remember, your role, your voice and your influence in the adoption process are just as important as those of the adoptive family!
Think about Where You’re at in Your Life! Think about Where You Want to be!
As aforementioned, if you’re pregnant and considering adoption, everything you do should be in the best interest of your child. Thinking about where YOU’RE at in YOUR life right now and where you’d like to be someday may sound selfish -- however, it’s quite the opposite.
If you’re not at a place in your life where you can be the best parent possible to your child, then placing your child for adoption may very well be in his or her best interest. When you think about where you’re at in life, you should be thinking about your career, your financial situation, your living situation, your relationships with the people in your life and so on. If you were to raise your child, keep in mind that all of these things will play an important role in your success as your child’s parent!
If You’ve Considered Your Other Options, But None of Them Feel Right!
For birth mothers who have become pregnant unexpectedly, there are a lot more options and resources today than there were in the past. Aside from adoption, some birth mothers choose to raise their child as a single parent, while others choose to bring their child to a Baby Safe Haven or to have an abortion. There are a variety of reasons a birth mother might choose one of these options over adoption, but if you’re pregnant, have considered these other options and have found that none of them feel like the right thing for you and your child, adoption might be the best choice for both of you!
Again, you should do your research on adoption before you commit to it, but if you do choose to place your child for adoption, you’ll be giving him or her the chance at a better future and a family the opportunity to grow through the miracle that is adoption!
You’ve Given Adoption a LOT of Careful and Thoughtful Consideration!
Remember, adoption is not a decision to be made lightly! Also, keep in mind that everything you do from the moment you decide that you cannot raise your child should be in the best interest of him or her. Every decision you make from here on out will affect you both, but especially your child and their future, which is why you must constantly be thinking about what’s best for him or her.
Of course, as the birth mother, you have the right to change your mind at any point in the adoption process, however, once it’s finalized, there’s no turning back. As aforementioned, be sure to consider the three types of adoption carefully. Understanding the differences between each type is a key part to keeping your child’s best interest in mind. To learn more about each of the three types of adoption, please click the following Adoption Choices of Florida link:
Adoption is an Excellent Choice!
Adoption, again, is a wonderful way to give your child the life you maybe couldn’t provide, and to give another family the chance to grow and to give your child a chance at a better future. Though society isn’t necessarily the kindest to women who choose to place their children for adoption, those who understand the adoption process know that birth mothers are perhaps the most selfless people on the planet, giving their child the gift of a better future and a family the gift of growth and parenthood. For birth mothers still wondering whether or not adoption is right for their child, you’ll feel more confident and comfortable in your decision if you remind yourself of this every so often!
If you are a birth parent considering adoption, and have any questions or concerns about the process, please don’t hesitate to reach out. For more information on adoption, visit us at Adoption Choices of Florida or call us at: 800-985-8108