Despite the extra work and unique stresses of being a single parent, many single parents prefer their solo role and some birth mothers prefer to choose a single man or woman to adopt their child. Why one decides to parent a child as a single or why a birth mother choose a single to adopt their child is as individual as the adoption process itself.
We have compiled a few thoughts, advantages, or reasons why one might choose adoption as a single parent or choose a single parent to adopt.
And remember, with Adoption Choices of Florida, we always work directly with our birth mothers to help you choose your perfect adoptive family!
As a sole parent in a household, you know exactly what needs to be done, and how to accomplish it. With no spouse to negotiate or argue with over day-to-day responsibilities and expenditures or kids rules, things get done more quickly and efficiently. Knowing you, alone, are in charge can be quite liberating and empowering.
Single parents also might experience increased bonding time with the children as a benefit. Without a spouse taking up time with needs and requests, a single parent has more time and energy for the children. Single parents are also able to arrange the family schedule without consulting, or being concerned with, the other parent. Often, single parents are more relaxed with their children because of this.
Lack of fighting between parents is another advantage of single-parent families. When a relationship is contentious and strained, fighting increases between parents, which negatively affects the entire family. Often the absence of parental conflict and arguing relieves tension and calms the household, resulting in more harmonious relationships.
Additionally, single parents have a unique opportunity to role model strong, ethical behavior for their children. By negotiating day-to-day challenges, handling emergencies, and being there for the child, a single parent shows their child that it is possible to live and thrive on one's own.
As selfish as it may sound, not having to share with a spouse or partner can also be liberating. Not having to share time, money, the children on a daily basis, or information you do not wish to divulge results in less stress and can be liberating.
Despite the somewhat scary prospect of being on your own and parenting the children solo or a single adoption your child, being a single parent can be a wonderful, strengthening, empowering experience! Overcoming hurdles, negotiating day-to-day disasters and conflicts, and watching your children become strong and confident are just a few of the rewards to be reaped by single parents. As an added bonus, the more you accomplish, the better and more confident you feel about yourself and your abilities – and the more you want to accomplish. Having your children watch you grow will help them grow, as well.